How to help young People resist sexual pressure:
Sexual pressure on young people are at all time high. Yong people today are wrestling with sexual decision that the previous generation had not face. We are surrounded by a permissive society that accept and even glorified casual sex. A student said, “when I see how casually sex is treated by my classmate and on my campus, when they make it all sound so natural and inevitable, there are times when I wonder what I am waiting.” If you want to know how to help your kids resist sexual pressure, we must first understand why they fall into the pressure.
The Media Makes it Difficult to Resist sexual pressure
One of the primary culprits behind the human tragedy is the media and the lies it feeds to young people about sex. the media bombard us daily with messages about sex. Sex is the primary ingredient in most advertising. They spend millions for it. It is used to sell many things from automobiles to deodorants. Our radios, television sets, movie screen, DVD player, books and magazines graphically and convincingly tempt is to sexual fantasy and experimentation apart from morals and responsibilities.
On movies You see too young unmarried people in movies staying together in the same house in the name of courtship. Entertainment is even more influential that advertising in communicating sex to young people. A guy’s mind remembers scene of sex so vividly when he is with his girlfriend, it is easy for him to act them out.
Resisting Sexual Pressure and Music Lyrics of sexual invitation
The music young people listen to today convey another strong message about sex. Popular music on the radio, internet, and DVD bombard them with explicit lyric of sexual invitation and conquest. Such Music makes it difficult for young people to resist sexual pressure. Young people don’t just hear and see music; they feel it through high-tech sounds system and booming speakers. They are persuaded by what they hear through constant repetition.
Curiosity make youth to fall in. Resisting sexual pressure becomes difficult
curiosity is one of the reasons why young people becomes sexually active. They want to know what is like. They hear about in song, read about it on the internet, watch it on movies. Adolescent have a natural curiosity about the unknown which is the basic of the problem.
Early dating, early sex:
Be caution in deciding when to let you child begin to date. Young people are emotionally and relationally unprepared to handle the pressure of their sexual hormones. They are maturing physically but still emotionally immature. They are children in adults body. for Them to resist sexual pressure, they have to start dating when they are emotionally, physically and spiritually matured.
The need for love, modeling and attention:
God intended for young people to learn to love in the home by seeing both parents first love each other and then love them unconditionally. When loving relationship in the home break down and parental model of cease to function, children grow up ignorant of how to give and receive Love. They will look for love outside and the pressure they outside may be, “if you love me, you will have sex with me” or “if you love me, you will prove it: Close relationship between parent and their children over many years reduce sexual risk.
Steps on How to help your kid resist sexual pressure
The way to teach kid to resist sexual pressure is to teach them the Love Of God. It is no doubt that Christian youth know very well what the bible says about premarital sex. But they still want to know why? As parent, pastors, youth leaders and teachers, we have not fail to lay down God command to them but what they also need to know the why behind the bible restriction on sex. Many Christian youth accepts the Bible authority on many issues but struggle when it comes to morality and lifestyle choice. They are aware that the Bible place clear limitation on sextually activity but they consider these limitations merely obsolete.
We must help young people understand the reason surrounding Gods rule.
The rule of God generally is to:
- To love and protect us
- Provide for us
To Love us
The rule that comes from God is not to spoil our fun but from a loving father. He knows the devastating consequences of extramarital sex-consequences such as guilt, pains, unwanted pregnancy, and even death and disease. He wants us to avoid those heart-breaking consequences. In talking to young people about sex, we have to get to help them see that the precept of the Bible was given out of purest love. Beyond that we must make it clear that these same precepts are still relevant today and for the same reason.
We need to help them understand the definition of love.
What love does and does not:
1 Cor 13:4-6: Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily. It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God’s love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong]. Love does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail.
Love does not wrong anyone:
Rom 13:10 love does no wrong to anyone. That’s why it fully satisfies all of God’s requirements. It is the only law you need.
part of what God want to protect young people from is the devastating emotional consequences that premarital sex can bring. There are all kinds of emotional baggage that a young person may have to carry into His or Her future marriage from promiscuous sexual relationship. Here are few things that God want to protect us from:
Protection from guilt:
Guilt is one consequences of premarital sex that may haunt a person longer than any other. If not dealt with, it can be a great hindrance to spiritual growth and emotional wellbeing. Guilt is the awareness of having transgressed a standard of wright and wrong. Premarital sex produce guilt because God has wired us together in such a way that we know we have violated His intention.
Protection from misleading feelings about sex and love:
premarital sex can fool an individual into marrying the wrong person. studies have shown that a relationship base on physical attraction may hold itself together for three years. During that length of time, people are fooled into thinking, “well, we have been going together for so long, surely we can make it for a lifetime” on the other side of marriage they wake up to see that they had little in common and no basis for a quality relationship.
Protection from the hardship of break up
Protection from damage family relationship: people who can’t control themselves before marriage will have a hard time controlling themselves after. People who have become involved in premarital sex are more likely to become involved in extramarital sex than those who have saved sex until marriage
Protection from sin against the body:
1 Cor 6:18-20: Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. 19 Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20 you were bought at a price. Therefore, honor God with your body.
Provision for emotional wholeness in future marriage:
emotional damage is a virtually unavoidable consequence of pre-marital sex, since an act of such spiritual intensity, an act so expressly forbidden by God, entails rejecting the established spiritual order of things.
Provision of maturity:
physical gratification is fleeting. Maturity is a quality of character that can never be taken away
Provision of respect for one’s body:
if He love you, he will wait for you. our body is the temple of The Holy Spirit.
Provision of dignity:
human sexuality is a reflection of the dignity God has given to us, a dignity that in the right time and place can be expressed in sex. It is precisely this dignity which our sinful nature destroys.
encourage young people to have an intimate relationship With Christ:
one of the greatest reasons for premarital sex is the need for intimacy. Psychologist tells us that greatest human need is to love and be loved. We long to share ourselves totally with another person. Because they don’t know how to find true intimacy, they pursue the illusion of instant intimacy. If a child develops and intimacy with Christ, he will less likely to seek sex intimacy. They need to continually build their relationship with Christ.
Tech them to guard what they watch
Teach how to make choice about the Music they will allow to influence them
Those who make Music today, artist, record companies, marketers are not primarily interested in caring for our souls or helping us avoid worldliness. Just as people can write Music to communicate Sin, we can listen to Music to feed sin. Music amplifies the deceptive voices of the World. Listening to Music is never neutral because our sinful heart is involved (James 1:14-15). listening to Music without discernment and Godly intent reveals a heart that willing to flirt with the world
Ask yourself if the lyrics of the music you are listening to is true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent and or praiseworthy, then their is nothing wrong with listening to that Music. (phil 4:8, col 3:2,5). The more you spend time listening to music, the more it becomes a friend that will affect you. Is the Music you listen to a wise friend or a fool? an ongoing struggle with worldly Music shows that an individual has never been regenerated (2cor:13;5). Are you a Music artist that is abusing Music? or are you a listener that feed heart and abused pattern of Music. it is either you are glorifying God or Satan through Music.